Morning chats

Sometimes you just have to throw your messy hair up in a pony tail and go to Starbucks with your kid. Let her eat a cookie for breakfast…add some chocolate milk with the cookie. And just talk…

Talk about…her friends

…her enemies

…about why she can and can’t do certain things

…the movies she likes to watch

…her feelings

…what she wants to be when she grows, and why

From the day Melody was born I’ve asked the Lord to help me draw the line in being her mom and not her friend, but at the same time being the one she always wants to come to.

He has shown me that it comes in moments like this.

When I put my phone down is when I get these moments.
When I shut down the computer and unplug from the world I get her full attention.
When bed time isn’t rushed and we can lay in bed and talk about our day…that’s when I find her frustrations, what excites her, and what we need to work on.

Time is precious. It’s something we can never get back and by not using it wisely it becomes the number one regret for many in life.

In moments like this I am reminded of Dave. Dave was an executive president at a company I used to work for. When I sat in his office and talked about my “one day” position for the company that seemed so high and promising vs. staying home with my daughter, he looked at me and said “go home and be with your child. You will never get that time back and it goes so fast – if you don’t, you will regret it.”

He was right. And to hear someone who was so highly esteemed tell me that “work will always be an option but your kid is only little for a short time” was exactly what I needed to hear.

We can’t all be stay at home mom’s but we all have the same amount of hours in a day…it’s about how we use our time that matters!

To the mom that feels overwhelmed…

Dear mom,

Today you may be feeling overwhelmed.

Perhaps it was the 5 loads of laundry you did and you’re still not even halfway done.
If your kids would actually hang their clothes up after they’re done wearing them then you wouldn’t have as much laundry to do.

Or perhaps you just spent 1.5 hours cooking dinner only to be told “I’m not hungry” as they scoot their plate to the side.

Maybe you’ve just received that phone call from the school, again.
Same kid. Same problem.

Maybe you were having a sweet mom moment and you went into your kids room in the middle of the night just to kiss them on the cheek, but you stepped on a lego along the way. The lego you told them 5 times to pick up so you wouldn’t step on it in the middle of the night. (The lego ruined the moment.)

Or maybe what happened to me today has happened to you:
You’ve been doing everything for your child all day…you’re in the middle of something important and it’s like your child has the perfect timing to say “MOM! I’m thirsty.”
I wanted to pause and say “well I’m doing YOUR LAUNDRY – get your own water.”

…and the Lord reminded me:
Whoever gives one of His little ones even a cup of water will surely not lose their reward. (Matthew 10:42)

I’m not saying this is an excuse for your child to be lazy and for you to do everything for your kid. This is just a quick encouraging post for the mom that is feeling overwhelmed to remember…that kid of yours is really Jesus’s little baby. What you are doing for your child does not go un-noticed. Keep pressing in.

All the work you are doing and the hours you are putting in may FEEL un-fruitful, but it’s not. Being a mom isn’t always easy but you can do it!