I had a mommy break-down moment last night because Melody got in her “first fight.” She’s in 1st grade. It was simple first grade stuff. The “boys club” wouldn’t let her (the girl) get to… More
“Let them be little” is a song that’s been stuck in my head lately. Probably because Melody is starting first grade this year and that all kicks off in a couple of weeks! In my mind, Kindergarten and Senior year would be the only two tough years. Nope. I’m still one sad momma as school is fast approaching. Anyways, this post is me being 100% transparent on battling thoughts as a Christian mom of a toddler little girl.
The other night Josh and I had one of those “Kid is asleep, dogs are in bed, television is off, coffee is brewing, let’s talk about life…” kind of nights. I love those nights. Just me and him in the living room talking about how we want Melody’s childhood to be.
Now, here come the transparent thoughts:
I’ve been putting a lot of pressure on Melody. If you were to ask her, she’d disagree and say what a sweet mom I am because that’s just the type of person that she is. But the truth is, I have been putting un-necessary pressure on her as a 6 year old little girl.
// The demand to always have her hair done.
// The demand to make sure her shoes match her outfit.
// The demand to make sure she is always put together.
// Refusing to post a picture on social media unless it’s ‘perfect’ (whatever that means…)
… and the list goes on.
And why? That was the biggest annoyance to all of this was why?? I’ve honestly never been this way. Sure I find it important to make sure you’re decent when you need to be and to dress up for church to honor God, etc… but I was taking this to the extreme. That’s when the Lord revealed to me exactly what we preach to the students on a regular basis:
What are you watching? Who are you following on social media? Who has influence in your life? You know…the whole “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future…” Ummm yeah – that’s real!
So I kid you not – this is what I did. I pulled up my social media (starting with Instagram because I’m on it the most…) and as I scrolled through I was seeing all of these mom’s that I follow who post pictures of their daughters and their perfect life. Their hair is always done, some of them are wearing make-up, they’re wearing expensive clothes, holding expensive toys and they just flat out look perfect. Hmmmm. Interesting – exactly what I was focusing on with Melody…. Coincidence? NO.
So what? Is this another post to remind you that life isn’t as it seems on social media and don’t buy into that trap? Yes. Yes it is. Because it takes being reminded. It’s also a reminder that what you focus on you will become.
On top of that, as I was seeking the Lord He reminded me of this: What you see as important your kids will see as important. What are you highlighting in their life? What are you showing them is the most important?
So there it is – me being completely transparent on battling thoughts of wanting a perfect and well put together toddler girl.
And to Melody, here’s to priorities! I love you.
// don’t hit snooze.
The second your alarm goes off, get up and get going! Since when does sleeping “10 extra minutes” really ever help? Here’s why it doesn’t help: because when you hit the snooze button you are telling your body to enter another sleep cycle, one that you can’t fully finish (because snoozing usually lasts only 5-10 minutes…) Hitting snooze actually does more harm than good to your body.
// make your bed.
There’s a reason why those in the military make their bed first thing in the morning. It’s proven that by waking up and immediately completing a task, you will naturally complete more tasks throughout the day.
// spend time in the Word.
There’s just something special about giving Jesus your first. When you wake up and ask Jesus to come be with you throughout the day, the day is sweeter and full of joy. It’s always when I’m “down” or “upset” when I don’t want to do anything. When I’m full of energy and joy, that’s when I’m more productive! That comes through Jesus!
// complete another small task.
Have you ever listened to Dave Ramsey’s method of paying off debt? He uses the snowball effect because it builds momentum. I believe the same thing when it comes to tasks. Doing a few small tasks like “unloaded the dishwasher” or “starting a load of laundry” or “sweeping” – that makes you feel more accomplished and makes you feel like you want to do more.
// open the blinds/windows.
This is literally the second thing I do after I wake up (because the first is going straight to the bathroom!) Let the sunlight in! When it’s dark inside the house is typically when you want to stay in bed or lounge on the couch…
// get dressed (for all of you SAHM.)
Even if it’s changing from one set of leggings to another. Get dressed, put some make-up on, and maybe even spray a bit of smelly good stuff on your clothes. Staying in your pajamas does not help the motivation of getting things done!