Let her be little…

“Let them be little” is a song that’s been stuck in my head lately. Probably because Melody is starting first grade this year and that all kicks off in a couple of weeks! In my mind, Kindergarten and Senior year would be the only two tough years. Nope. I’m still one sad momma as school is fast approaching. Anyways, this post is me being 100% transparent on battling thoughts as a Christian mom of a toddler little girl.

Mel dressing herself

The other night Josh and I had one of those “Kid is asleep, dogs are in bed, television is off, coffee is brewing, let’s talk about life…” kind of nights. I love those nights. Just me and him in the living room talking about how we want Melody’s childhood to be.

Now, here come the transparent thoughts:

I’ve been putting a lot of pressure on Melody. If you were to ask her, she’d disagree and say what a sweet mom I am because that’s just the type of person that she is. But the truth is, I have been putting un-necessary pressure on her as a 6 year old little girl.

// The demand to always have her hair done.
// The demand to make sure her shoes match her outfit.
// The demand to make sure she is always put together.
// Refusing to post a picture on social media unless it’s ‘perfect’ (whatever that means…)
… and the list goes on.

And why? That was the biggest annoyance to all of this was why?? I’ve honestly never been this way. Sure I find it important to make sure you’re decent when you need to be and to dress up for church to honor God, etc… but I was taking this to the extreme. That’s when the Lord revealed to me exactly what we preach to the students on a regular basis:

What are you watching? Who are you following on social media? Who has influence in your life? You know…the whole “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future…” Ummm yeah – that’s real!

So I kid you not – this is what I did. I pulled up my social media (starting with Instagram because I’m on it the most…) and as I scrolled through I was seeing all of these mom’s that I follow who post pictures of their daughters and their perfect life. Their hair is always done, some of them are wearing make-up, they’re wearing expensive clothes, holding expensive toys and they just flat out look perfect. Hmmmm. Interesting – exactly what I was focusing on with Melody…. Coincidence? NO.

So what? Is this another post to remind you that life isn’t as it seems on social media and don’t buy into that trap? Yes. Yes it is. Because it takes being reminded. It’s also a reminder that what you focus on you will become.

On top of that, as I was seeking the Lord He reminded me of this: What you see as important your kids will see as important. What are you highlighting in their life? What are you showing them is the most important?

So there it is – me being completely transparent on battling thoughts of wanting a perfect and well put together toddler girl.

Melody laughing in rain

And to Melody, here’s to priorities! I love you.

4 thoughts on “Let her be little…

  1. Yes yes yes. So so good. I fall into the trap too. I don’t want the boys to pick out their outfits because they won’t match . I take 100 pictures because they make silly faces. Goodness! They are toddlers ! They should be making silly faces! I should love this goofiness and not try to squash it. Thanks friend for always being honest.

    Xxoo, Monica

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    1. Exactly Monica! The whole taking 100 pictures to get the “perfect” one is SO ME! Yet, how come when I go through old pictures of my childhood, it’s always the non-perfect pictures that are the best? Isn’t that crazy!

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  2. First, I have missed reading by our blog!!!!! I was just reading something similar to this the other day and it’s so true, we make our lives look perfect. I too tend to fall into this on occasion but need to stop….life is busy, hectic, messy, and ugly and if God doesn’t mind then why should I try to perfect it.

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    1. Well and this is one of those things where the whole cliche saying of “it’s not you, it’s me…” comes into play. Like it’s not any other person’s fault that I was thinking that way. It was mine. I just had to do what I needed to do to quit comparing my toddler to others. There’s nothing wrong with posting perfect pictures of your kid…but comparison is the thief of joy so when you start comparing your kid to someone else’s because of pictures, it’s getting pathetic and changes need to be made. That was my heart in all of this.
      Also, I haven’t been reading blogs in a LONG time! Are you still blogging?!

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