I heard a Pastor say one time that your kids don’t want stuff they want you. I can personally chuckle when I first think or hear that because let’s be honest, I can think of 7 toys right now that my daughter would vote for instead of sitting on the couch talking with me. But it goes deeper than that. For the past several months we have really been focusing on set-aside family time and I’ve seen this Pastor’s statement coming more true as we spend that quality time together.
Time where we ignore phone calls to be with family.
Time where we turn the tv off and play board games and talk.
Getting away, even if it’s camping for just 24 hours and simply being together as a family.
I truly believe this is how you get your kids heart, which is what the Lord spoke to me last year on spending quality time with Melody. I’ve always heard that the first 5 years are the most crucial years in teaching a child “who is boss and right from wrong.” Once Mel turned 6 I asked God “now what? She knows right from wrong. She knows mom and dad are boss…but what is that next crucial step?” And he answered: Time. Quality time. Listen to her. Focus on her. Build a genuine relationship with her so that she knows she can come to you and tell you everything. Get her heart.
Much like when Jesus has our heart we have a genuine relationship with Him. We talk to Him daily. We want to please Him. We strive to follow Him and His commands. The same is with our kids, when we have their heart. They want to talk to us daily. They want to please us. They strive to follow us and obey us. It’s a heart issue. You can’t get someone’s heart without the precious commodity called time.
This weekend we went on an overnight camping trip. We hiked together, played games, and sat around the campfire playing the most innocent and hilarious game of truth and dare. We laughed together and made memories as a family. I cherish these moments and I’m learning that the more times like this that we have, the more we crave. Which takes me back to the original statement: your kids wants you. They want their mom and dad to spend time with them and talk to them and invest into them. Toys are fun, in fact we just bought Melody an LOL surprise toy that she has been wanting…but I promise you this: if she is playing with that toy and I ask her if she wants to go do something as a family she will drop the doll and come with me.