Sometimes you just have to throw your messy hair up in a pony tail and go to Starbucks with your kid. Let her eat a cookie for breakfast…add some chocolate milk with the cookie. And just talk…
Talk about…her friends
…about why she can and can’t do certain things
…the movies she likes to watch
…what she wants to be when she grows, and why
From the day Melody was born I’ve asked the Lord to help me draw the line in being her mom and not her friend, but at the same time being the one she always wants to come to.
He has shown me that it comes in moments like this.
When I put my phone down is when I get these moments.
When I shut down the computer and unplug from the world I get her full attention.
When bed time isn’t rushed and we can lay in bed and talk about our day…that’s when I find her frustrations, what excites her, and what we need to work on.
Time is precious. It’s something we can never get back and by not using it wisely it becomes the number one regret for many in life.
In moments like this I am reminded of Dave. Dave was an executive president at a company I used to work for. When I sat in his office and talked about my “one day” position for the company that seemed so high and promising vs. staying home with my daughter, he looked at me and said “go home and be with your child. You will never get that time back and it goes so fast – if you don’t, you will regret it.”
He was right. And to hear someone who was so highly esteemed tell me that “work will always be an option but your kid is only little for a short time” was exactly what I needed to hear.
We can’t all be stay at home mom’s but we all have the same amount of hours in a day…it’s about how we use our time that matters!
I had a mommy break-down moment last night because Melody got in her “first fight.”
She’s in 1st grade.
It was simple first grade stuff. The “boys club” wouldn’t let her (the girl) get to the slide…however, she took the step to get to the slide anyway…the boys didn’t like that and told a boy to fight her.
I legit cried hearing how it “all went down” because my precious baby was standing there defending herself and mommy/daddy weren’t there to help her. We couldn’t tell the boy to stop, we couldn’t step in the middle and teach them to be nice, and we had never even taught Melody how to defend herself.
As I cried and snuggled Melody, she hopped off my lap and went to grab me a kleenex. When she came back in the room she said “it’s okay mom, I was fine.”
It wasn’t immediate, but later that night Jesus told me “yes, she is fine. This is why she has Me. Because you won’t always be there. Because daddy won’t always be there. Because the teacher won’t always see and the kids won’t always be nice. But I will always be there. I will defend her because ultimately she is MY precious daughter.”
And then it hit me: everything we have been teaching Melody is beginning to be put to use. All of those times I’ve told her “Melody, Jesus is always with you…even when you feel alone….” and last night I reminded her of that. Jesus is with you on the playground. He is with you in the cafeteria. He is with you when you’re in the back of the line and He’s with you when you’re in the front of the line. He’s with you when you’re taking tests and He’s with you when you’re speaking to the class.
I love you Melody Truth!
“Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6
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